Please Don’t Be a Perfect Parent

I don’t really know what it means to be a Perfect Mum, but I know I’m not it.

But that’s okay. Because kids don’t need perfect parents.

Children who feel like their parents are perfect, grow up believing that they too should be perfect. And, as many of us know, that’s a road destined for heartbreak and misery.

Kids don’t need perfect parents.

Kids need parents who always try their best.

Kids need parents who:

  • talk openly about not being perfect.
  • always try their best.
  • acknowledge their shortcomings.
  • take responsibility when they make a mistake.
  • apologise to people they’ve wronged.
    • (even if it was an accident.)
    • (even if the person wronged was a child.)
  • take responsibility when they lose their temper.
  • don’t blame others for their emotions.
  • model the behaviour they want to see from their children.
    • (even when their kids aren’t watching.)
  • say, “I love you.”
  • are consistent and predictable.
  • smile.
  • laugh.
  • respect themselves and others.
  • love them, no matter what.

Parenting is hard. We all know that. But sometimes we make it even harder than it has to be, by setting ridiculous expectations on ourselves.

So stop.

Stop trying to be perfect. Stop feeling guilty. And just concentrate on being the best parent you can be on any given day.

Your children will thank you for it.


Do what you can, with what you’ve got, where you are.

— Teddy Roosevelt


Filed under Life With Kids, Opinion

7 responses to “Please Don’t Be a Perfect Parent

  1. Jo- Perfect advice for imperfect parents the world-over. 🙂 Thank you!

  2. Oh- and I just noticed I made your Cool Links for Parents! Thank you! 🙂

  3. “Kids need parents who always try their best.” so true

  4. Pingback: Those Scabby Perfect Parents Next Door « Midlife Mayhem

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